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Women Around The World Are Agreeing with Compliments and it’s Pissing Men Off

“You look really nice today.” It’s a simple compliment. The reaction should simply be “thank you” but that’s too easy; instead most of us must do an awkward dance of feigned modesty. “Oh no, I woke up late and had no time” or “really? Have you seen this pimple?!” or “this old thing, I mean it’s practically garbage”. We actively reduce ourselves.

Why do we do this? Maybe it’s because we’re told being confident and self-assured is tacky. So when complimented we can’t accept it. If you’re anything like me, a compliment flips a switch held deep within my social programming that forces me to instantly vomit out a series of self-loathing quips to counter the comment. It’s pretty sad and a very feminine thing because women have to be intelligent and beautiful while simultaneously unaware of it. “She’s more beautiful because she doesn’t know it” is a something I’m sure we’ve all heard countless times.

However, agreeing compliments may just be the secret to stopping garbage males in their tracks. This idea was promoted by Feminsta Jones who has inspired a wave of women reaffirming their self worth across social media.

Feminista Jones is an author, activist, and full-time social worker based in Philadelphia. She often uses social media to drive discussions about women’s issues, particularly those that effect women of colour. On Friday, she tweeted out a challenge to her followers to “piss a man off today” by agreeing with his compliments.

Tweets flooded in and the idea that a woman agreeing with a compliment proved a fairly sore point for many men.

 

Sadly, a lot of the tweets were about experiences where a woman had agreed with a compliment in complete earnest only to get told they were conceited or deluded.

While shutting guys down who react this way is always great, what should be recognised in this thread is the overwhelming negative reaction from these men. I mean come on guys buck up! The world needs confident women and by telling a woman (and other men in the process) that being self assured and confident is conceited is just misogynistic. We can’t let little girls be told that showing pride in themselves is wrong and we shouldn’t let little boys inherit these warped ideas.

However, neither should we be telling girls that they should seek affirmation of their behaviour from men.
So even though these women are shutting down these men, what we should be praising these queens for is their self pride and confidence to turn around and tell anyone “Yes, I am great and I am unapologetic about that” because why should you apologise for that? As Feminsta Jones said herself: Own your dopeness and Goooooo!

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